This post was inspired by a vlog post made by Tiwin Aji (her forever creative attitude is always on point!).
As we all know, unemployment rate is increasing on a daily basis (okay maybe daily is too extreme, but you know what I mean). We have graduates who had their 3 seconds of fame on stage and months (even years) of job hunting. We have people who are being laid off from their positions due to an issue that is currently out of our control. Please bare in mind that we are not the only country that is affected by this phenomenon. So many have been affected therefore, you should not be upset about it cause you are capable of so many things if you just believe (though believing alone would not do you much, so put your heart into it and do what you have to do!)
Truth is, when I first decided to leave my job with one of the country’s powerful oil and gas company I can honestly say that I did think things through, I did had a chance to outline my plans of what I need to do to survive before I achieve my actual freedom. I can say this is quite a bonus as I was actually mentally well prepared which is more crucial than financially-although being financially prepared would actually help alot. But despite the ups and downs that we have to go through, I still feel blessed for always preparing my mind to always stay positive regardless (most of the times 😅)
Today, I would like to share with you my answers to few of the most common questions that I get.
1. Do you ever regret leaving your job? Honestly, because of the fact that I kept reading the books that contribute to my personal development (financially and non-financially) the feeling of regret never occured in me when it comes to this decision. The decision I made in 2015 infact gave me the opportunity to explore more than I could ever compare to if I was still working.
2. How do you survive financially without a steady job? Being unemployed does not mean you cannot earn as much as you did or more. Instead, it gives you the freedom to choose for better things to do. God gave you two hands to work with, two legs to walk with. Working your sweat off for the things that you need and want is better than asking for help or whine about how money is never enough. How do I manage? I make my own initiatives. I was not even close to “know abit about” skin care or makeups, but I invested to learn and to start up and I rotate the earnings for the things that matters. Today, I won’t say that I am “filthy rich” but I know and I am sure, for as long as I still have the energy to work for it, I would take the extra miles, but one thing for sure, seeking for “unnecessary help” will never be part of my option. (This is not me being proud, this is me trying to make a point). If you want something, and you are perfect enough to perform the tasks, why must you go around whining about your challenges when you can instead spend your time on working for it? NEVER WHINE, NEVER COMPLAIN WHEN YOUR EFFORT IN IT IS NOT EVEN 101%! (If you still have the time to sit around at home, don’t even think about it)
3. What is your worst experience of being unemployed? I cannot name my worst experience as there are actually alot, especially while building my empire. I have people backstabbing me while making full use of my effort to help them. I have people taking advantage on my so-called-kindness. I have people saying untrue things about me while at the same time giving credits to themselves. There’s ALOT! You name it! But these experiences would never stop me from learning to be better than I was yesterday. Regardless what you do for others or for yourselves, good or bad.. There will still be those who will not appreciate you and talk about you behind your backs. It is still up to you to ignore and keep going or to stop half way and seek for sympathy or to be like them by giving them back a taste of their own medicine.
4. What made you leave your job while others are actually seeking for one? For me, having a job is actually not a bad thing, since the pay was good (infact, too good for my qualification). But it is also not a good thing as it keeps me comfortable. It stops me from realising the things that urgently needs my attention. Which is rather sad come to think about it. I had no problem spending even my weekends at work without feeling any guilt, it was fully comfort.
5. Given the chance, will you ever consider working again with better salary and working hours? That is a hard no. Aside from the pay, my life with work was rather frustrating. Having people around you making you feel like you do not belong and attacking you all at once for things that you did not actually do. These are the things that I do not wish to experience again. Although there is no promise that these things won’t happen in the future whether or not I started working again, I suppose if I were to be attacked while chasing my dreams, I guess it’d be worth it.
6. What is your greatest challenge? This would definitely be myself. I believe in “fix yourselves before fixing others”. It was never easy to get up early in the morning for work-I had a boss, let alone waking up early when I have no boss! In addition to the fact that I am not a people person, it is never easy to keep myself mentally calm. Sometimes I also tend to forget that life is not about having others understanding us, it is about us understanding them.
7. Can you share some great experiences being unemployed? There is alot of amazing experiences that I have encountered while being unemployed. You see, being unemployed does not mean you have to sit at home emptying the fridge and cabinets. Being unemployed gives you the chances to explore more. May it be exploring the world for fun, for your interest or maybe just to improve your lifetyles. For me, I have the chance to expand my beauty and wellness business; and to expand, it is essential for me to travel to learn. And because of this, I had the chance to learn from alot of successful people. In fact, just recently I had the chance to meet a super successful couple from Germany and a couple of global citizens from Bangkok. I even get to meet a 24 year old young lady who has a world wide business. These people that I met, I do not think that I would ever be able to if I were to not travel to learn. One common thing that I learnt from them is they make full use of their times on doing beneficial things. This freedom to learn is very much possible when you are not working for someone else. Provided, you put your effort and whole heart into it. Remember NO EFFORT = NO MONEY and you cannot travel when you do not earn and there are many ways to earn legally. (But that does not mean that you can use the term NO MONEY as an excuse).
Other than the freedom to learn, I also have the opportunity to spend more time with my family. I may not be able to spend much time at family functions (since I still prefer to spend them on preparing for my future), but the most important ones are my immediate family. I keep this as my mantra “If it does not contribute to my success, I will say NO,”. And I believe, as long as I still have time for my family (my husband, parents, mother in law, siblings and nieces) it is okay. The hardwork, the pain.. They are only temporary. The result is permanent.
So what’s the message I am trying to point here?
Being unemployed is not actually a problem, it is a challenge and an opportunity. It is all depends on what you are planning to do about it. I am not trying to make everyone go all “I am going to quit my job now!”, NO! But I want those of you out there, who are affected by this increasing unemployment rate to see things from my views. Trust me, having a job is good. But at certain point, having no job is better than doing a job that you hate.
So, instead of feeling sorry for yourself please.. Why don’t you start planning on things that you could do for your own benefit. Look at the bright side; at least you are not controlled by alarm clocks and punch cards, while others have to be stucked in morning traffics you get spend that time to do morning exercises (live a healthy lifestyle), or maybe you have been planning to sit in a cafe in the morning just to finish that book you have been reading for the last few years but never had the chance to complete? There’s a lot of things that you can do. Trust me, I know how you feel, I felt the same way too (I cannot say that I did not get any anxiety attack at all). But seeing myself at where I am today, the amazing trips that I get to take, the time I get to spend with my family, the knowledges I have gained, through this unemployed series of my life; I don’t think that I could easily get if I was still working.
I hope, this post could give you guys a bit of inspiration to get back on your feet and on track.