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This post was inspired by a vlog post made by Tiwin Aji (her forever creative attitude is always on point!).

As we all know, unemployment rate is increasing on a daily basis (okay maybe daily is too extreme, but you know what I mean). We have graduates who had their 3 seconds of fame on stage and months (even years) of job hunting. We have people who are being laid off from their positions due to an issue that is currently out of our control. Please bare in mind that we are not the only country that is affected by this phenomenon. So many have been affected therefore, you should not be upset about it cause you are capable of so many things if you just believe (though believing alone would not do you much, so put your heart into it and do what you have to do!)

Truth is, when I first decided to leave my job with one of the country’s powerful oil and gas company I can honestly say that I did think things through, I did had a chance to outline my plans of what I need to do to survive before I achieve my actual freedom. I can say this is quite a bonus as I was actually mentally well prepared which is more crucial than financially-although being financially prepared would actually help alot. But despite the ups and downs that we have to go through, I still feel blessed for always preparing my mind to always stay positive regardless (most of the times πŸ˜…)

Today, I would like to share with you my answers to few of the most common questions that I get.

1. Do you ever regret leaving your job? Honestly, because of the fact that I kept reading the books that contribute to my personal development (financially and non-financially) the feeling of regret never occured in me when it comes to this decision. The decision I made in 2015 infact gave me the opportunity to explore more than I could ever compare to if I was still working.

2. How do you survive financially without a steady job? Being unemployed does not mean you cannot earn as much as you did or more. Instead, it gives you the freedom to choose for better things to do. God gave you two hands to work with, two legs to walk with. Working your sweat off for the things that you need and want is better than asking for help or whine about how money is never enough. How do I manage? I make my own initiatives. I was not even close to “know abit about” skin care or makeups, but I invested to learn and to start up and I rotate the earnings for the things that matters. Today, I won’t say that I am “filthy rich” but I know and I am sure, for as long as I still have the energy to work for it, I would take the extra miles, but one thing for sure, seeking for “unnecessary help” will never be part of my option. (This is not me being proud, this is me trying to make a point). If you want something, and you are perfect enough to perform the tasks, why must you go around whining about your challenges when you can instead spend your time on working for it? NEVER WHINE, NEVER COMPLAIN WHEN YOUR EFFORT IN IT IS NOT EVEN 101%! (If you still have the time to sit around at home, don’t even think about it)

3. What is your worst experience of being unemployed? I cannot name my worst experience as there are actually alot, especially while building my empire. I have people backstabbing me while making full use of my effort to help them. I have people taking advantage on my so-called-kindness. I have people saying untrue things about me while at the same time giving credits to themselves. There’s ALOT! You name it! But these experiences would never stop me from learning to be better than I was yesterday. Regardless what you do for others or for yourselves, good or bad.. There will still be those who will not appreciate you and talk about you behind your backs. It is still up to you to ignore and keep going or to stop half way and seek for sympathy or to be like them by giving them back a taste of their own medicine. 

4. What made you leave your job while others are actually seeking for one? For me, having a job is actually not a bad thing, since the pay was good (infact, too good for my qualification). But it is also not a good thing as it keeps me comfortable. It stops me from realising the things that urgently needs my attention. Which is rather sad come to think about it. I had no problem spending even my weekends at work without feeling any guilt, it was fully comfort.

5. Given the chance, will you ever consider working again with better salary and working hours? That is a hard no. Aside from the pay, my life with work was rather frustrating. Having people around you making you feel like you do not belong and attacking you all at once for things that you did not actually do. These are the things that I do not wish to experience again. Although there is no promise that these things won’t happen in the future whether or not I started working again, I suppose if I were to be attacked while chasing my dreams, I guess it’d be worth it.

6. What is your greatest challenge? This would definitely be myself. I believe in “fix yourselves before fixing others”. It was never easy to get up early in the morning for work-I had a boss, let alone waking up early when I have no boss! In addition to the fact that I am not a people person, it is never easy to keep myself mentally calm. Sometimes I also tend to forget that life is not about having others understanding us, it is about us understanding them.

7. Can you share some great experiences being unemployed? There is alot of amazing experiences that I have encountered while being unemployed. You see, being unemployed does not mean you have to sit at home emptying the fridge and cabinets. Being unemployed gives you the chances to explore more. May it be exploring the world for fun, for your interest or maybe just to improve your lifetyles. For me, I have the chance to expand my beauty and wellness business; and to expand, it is essential for me to travel to learn. And because of this, I had the chance to learn from alot of successful people. In fact, just recently I had the chance to meet a super successful couple from Germany and a couple of global citizens from Bangkok. I even get to meet a 24 year old young lady who has a world wide business. These people that I met, I do not think that I would ever be able to if I were to not travel to learn. One common thing that I learnt from them is they make full use of their times on doing beneficial things. This freedom to learn is very much possible when you are not working for someone else. Provided, you put your effort and whole heart into it. Remember NO EFFORT = NO MONEY and you cannot travel when you do not earn and there are many ways to earn legally. (But that does not mean that you can use the term NO MONEY as an excuse).
Other than the freedom to learn, I also have the opportunity to spend more time with my family. I may not be able to spend much time at family functions (since I still prefer to spend them on preparing for my future), but the most important ones are my immediate family. I keep this as my mantra “If it does not contribute to my success, I will say NO,”. And I believe, as long as I still have time for my family (my husband, parents, mother in law, siblings and nieces) it is okay. The hardwork, the pain.. They are only temporary. The result is permanent.

So what’s the message I am trying to point here?

Being unemployed is not actually a problem, it is a challenge and an opportunity. It is all depends on what you are planning to do about it. I am not trying to make everyone go all “I am going to quit my job now!”, NO! But I want those of you out there, who are affected by this increasing unemployment rate to see things from my views. Trust me, having a job is good. But at certain point, having no job is better than doing a job that you hate.

So, instead of feeling sorry for yourself please.. Why don’t you start planning on things that you could do for your own benefit. Look at the bright side; at least you are not controlled by alarm clocks and punch cards, while others have to be stucked in morning traffics you get spend that time to do morning exercises (live a healthy lifestyle), or maybe you have been planning to sit in a cafe in the morning just to finish that book you have been reading for the last few years but never had the chance to complete? There’s a lot of things that you can do. Trust me, I know how you feel, I felt the same way too (I cannot say that I did not get any anxiety attack at all). But seeing myself at where I am today, the amazing trips that I get to take, the time I get to spend with my family, the knowledges I have gained, through this unemployed series of my life; I don’t think that I could easily get if I was still working.

I hope, this post could give you guys a bit of inspiration to get back on your feet and on track.

Until then..
xx,

Tee.

I am not much of a person who’d be happy to talk to others when we have people over or when I have someone I know sitting next to me. I would either bury my face in the book that I currently read (if I happen to have it with me) or play with my phone despite the fact that I do not install games in my phone. When someone tries to have a conversation with me, I would desperately be blog hopping hoping that I can find a good material to read.

The fact that I am not much of a people person sometimes worries and taunts me. Because I still believe in the fact that I can change to be better. Some may not get it but I do want to talk to them, have a good conversation but the anxiety in me can sometimes just take over my head and keeps me silent. Some people tend to say that I am over reacting when truth is, there are times (most of the time) when I cannot conqure every bit of it. I can be excited for an occasion the night before and feel super gloomy the next day (enough for me to bail). I can laugh hard with you and go bonkers the next minute. Despite the fact that “bersalam-salaman” with the kids and elders is a culture for us Malays (especially when you are leaving), I would skip this and wait for Zainul in the car for him to be done. I would be going over my phone’s contact numbers that I save looking for those that I can remove. Yes, I know what you might think of me. But still, that is just how things are on my side.

This side of me, this particular side of me is the very one thing that I honestly am praying for a change. It may not be much for some but the fact that I would spend the rest of the night thinking of the better things that I could have done is starting to annoy me. Why? Because those thoughts that I have would give me difficult times-how? Simple, by not letting me sleep until I am content and getting that contentment does not take few hours! Sad? Tell me about it.

So, how do I learn to minimise these awful habit of mine? I read! I read the books that teaches me about our minds, about people, about attitudes, about so many things in the world that I am learning to understand. You see, to be understood, we must first seek to understand and to be a better person you must first learn to understand.

So what are the books that is good to be read for those who actually are in my shoes? Stay tuned! I will share more about them in my upcoming posts and let them out one by one.

Until then,

Xx,

Tee. 

Well hello there! I finally get my access to my blog after the whole changing phone and phone number incident. Never knew the 2FA can cause such workload. (Drama queen alert- well that’s what you get when you don’t start to be extra melancholy with your records)

Anyway, so much has taken their places this year though it has only been what? 3 weeks since new year? I even believe that I may now change my blog’s heading from “I am highly caffeinated” to “I am no longer a coffee addict”. But you can never be so sure since it is still too early to be. Why?? Cause our kept giving me the craves. (Yup, something even Starbucks can’t beat). But I can proudly say that it has been months since I first able to live my Mondays without coffee 😌😌
So, why the title? Simple, there’s no such thing as perfect in this world but you can always be better. It may be hard to change but changes are what makes the world a better place. You see, as the saying goes “everyone wants changes but no one wants to decide to change”. I do admit, it is not easy but it can be done.

Back in my teen years, if you were to ask me; if I love make ups, my answer would be “NO”. I grew up choosing Football over Barbie, short hair over long hair, fake stache over lipsticks.. The first ever time that I decided to get make up items (a few of them though) was few days before my wedding just to add up to our “Hantaran“. It wasn’t easy to choose AT ALL. I didn’t know what I want or what I need for that matter. I didn’t even know the difference between a concealer and a foundation πŸ˜… I can say even after a year since the purchase date, the bottles and “containers” were still more than half full. But today.. Things are different since 2014. I started to learn to fall for them and fell so hard since 2015. Everything seemed to be in my “MUST HAVE” list! I would cry and throw tantrums everytime I missed the 1st batch of the collections (believe me, there’s no such thing as 2nd or 3rd batches-or any!) I would make babe take me from BSB to Miri (about 2.5 hours drive) just to make sure that I’d get them!

But the make up brand that I wear is not just any make up brand. I am a proud Artistry user. Yup, you read that right.. ARTISTRYβ„’ why? Cos I know how easy it is for me to get breakouts everytime I wear makeups (hence, why I couldn’t even used them up even after a year) But Artistry is different. Why? I think it is best for you to discover 😊

What’s my point in this whole makeup thing? It is just the fact that, I learnt and still currently am learning to be better at doing makeups. You know, a change doesn’t have to be as big as running a non profit charity foundation or being a billionaire. Changes can be small (especially small) or huge, depending on your visions. But remember, the smallest details matter. Small changes can also give huge impact when you do it the right way. Regardless of what it is that you wish to change, do so whether it’s huge or small. Because these changes that you make.. If it is for the better, then everything will be better in time. All you have to do is decide, do, believe and leave the rest to God.

That’s all for now everyone!
xx,

Tee.

With the current global issue, many would be excited to get a job. In my case, I was forced to take one that would throw me back in my comfort zone.

I was working for a leading oil and gas based company for 3 years before I decided to leave in 2015. When everyone else is struggling to get jobs, I left mine cause it stopped challenging me and it made me feel comfortable. Confused? Well, here’s why!

Ever wonder how your life would be in the next 20 years? Or 10? Or maybe just 5? I have. And I read that, the people you surround yourself will build the person you’d be in 5 years. From my view, that is not how I want my life to be. The office politics, the never ending complains about the superiors, the getting-use-to to wait for payday, that’s not how I want my life to continuously be. The worst part is, knowing that if I were to continue working.. That’s gonna be my life routine – I’d have to endure it until the age of 60 😭 Don’t get me wrong, working is good.. But working for someone else for the rest of your lives…?? Where’s the freedom in that? Don’t you want to think about it? Scares me. In addition, one of my huge comfort zone is working; keeping myself preoccupied is my comfort zone..

  
I may be self-employed today, but I’m happy and I decide how much I earn. I am building my foundation for my better future. You may be earning 5 digits per month for working for a huge company, but you don’t have the freedom. At least I don’t have to wake up early in the morning to face people I dislike just to earn the money that others decided I should be earning.  I may be tired everyday but nothing good comes easy right? 

Some may not get why these things get into my head deeply, but I really don’t want to leave the earth without inheriting a proper legacy to my family. Life may be easy for me today, but it gets harder by time. $100 could feed you for a whole month years back, but $100 today wouldn’t last an hour. Imagine in 20 years time!! What would you feed your family??

I am scared of investing my hardwork and time at the wrong places. I wish most would understand.

Oh well, that’s that.. I guess it’s time to work harder. 10 times harder now.. Hawaii, Brazil and Argentina is waiting 😌 Gotta move up fast! 

   
   

I hope, you’d think about your future thoroughly.. 

xx,

Tee.

It is almost the end of March 2016 and I’ve just got the chance to write and post. It has been great by far and packed of course.

So, how did you guys spent your new year’s eve? We celebrated ours with them awesome people! It was termendous considering how much we learnt that night.

Babe and I won the best dress category for couple and we also got our numbers hit for the lucky draw 😌😌 one lucky night in deed! Although, we didn’t get to get back home (from BSB to Lumut) since none of us posesses a valid driving license so we decided to check into a hotel in Gadong area.

Anyway, I decided to get myself a dUCk planner 😁 the only colour left on Fashionvalet was toffee (I wish it was green!) Regardless, it’s amazing! Although, it’d be great if the covers were made of a better material considering that it’s one of the essential things that I keep in my bag!

   

Oh yes! We went to Sunway, Melaka and Bukit Bintang last Feb. Finally got the chance to take Nana out for dinner at Mid Valley before we went to Melaka. As for MUS, It was awesome! This time, the knowledges we gained were crazier!! Can’t wait for April for our next trip to KL (it’d be awesome again, I bet!)

   
 
There’s more to share but I’m still a little tired from playing on the bouncer with Baby at 3:30am! So maybe I’ll talk some more later!
xx,

Tee.

I took some time making my personal D.I.Y 2016 planner despite the fact that I’d be getting one before the year ends. It is fun to make one just to have those cheerful colours filling your sights.

I’m still thinking if I should or should not carry on with purchasing the dUCk planner 😍 I just love pretty colours!

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I mean, just look at these.. Aren't they adorable??!! One of these should be in your "must-have" list!

It’s the 26th and school holiday is almost over! We went to Anih’s place just to fill the time when them parents, little sisters and grandma were on their way to KK. Kakalong will be flying off to SG next week with Irdina & Maisarah (gonna miss those two little rascals alot! 😭). Sigh.

Anyway, I’ve booked our tickets for Feb’s MUS in Melaka. I hope I won’t forget to tapao Krispy Kreme’s doughnuts this time 😪 Can’t wait for the trip, last MUS was awesome but we missed the 1st day’s afternoon session since we had to stay a little bit longer in PJ. Knowledge trips with the BraveBerryWarriors is always a bliss πŸ™‚ cause everything is just super positive and it’s a chance for you to get away from all the stress and negativities. I hope the next trip will be as fruitful as every previous trips we attended together and I also hope that we’d get the chance to bring more this time 😎😎 Cause every trips means time to be away from all the worries and time to fill our days with only good times and more knowledges to bring back home!

Bye now.

xx,
Tee.

I was doing some work when I over heard mum mentioning about it. I can’t believe that I let it slipped off of my mind when there’s nothing else that I was looking forward to for the week that was as exciting.

I decided to witnessed what’s left of it and it was beautiful! I went outside with mum and Zainul followed me when Kateh came home and decided to get something for us to lie on while calling Baby to come with us. Several have passed but I was craving for more. So we lay on the box covered ground with our heads resting on our cushions.

Then Panda and Diamond joined us watching the meteor shower. They were still and quiet. Panda rested his head on his right front leg while resting in on my forearm with his left front paw on Zainul’s forearm and fell asleep. He is such a baby πŸ™‚ Diamond on the other hand, was sleeping on Baby’s blanket. We stayed there, counting the numbers of meteors that we spoted.

I can say last night’s experience was one of the best thing that happened in 2015. I hope it won’t be the last one though, we still have half of December 2015 coming πŸ˜‰

Life’s greatest achievements could be anything that touches your fancy. One could say “study hard, get a good job, work hard, get married, have kids and grow old” is their lives’ greatest achievements. Some may say, their crets are their greatest achievements. Some say that having this is too. 👇

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The best time to enjoy your life is today!

What ever it is that defines their lives’ greatest achievement, I won’t say that it’s wrong cause it is theirs to decide.

From my view, it is not when I am able to do unlimited number of charity or maybe living my life in Tahiti. For me, the greatest achievement would be when you are able to help a person or maybe loads of them to change their lives to a better one. Money is nothing compare to the source of money. A fishing rod is better than 10 fishes – right?

If you have a good life, why not fight for the great ones? I mean, how can one be satisfied with their achievements if he is not helping others to achieve theirs too? Touching people’s lives, that’s a great achievement. Being an inspiration, that’s a great achievement. Being able to transform a good follower to a good leader,Β  that’s a great achievement. One may be borned poor, but it is his decision to die rich or poor as well and you could help him to have a better future.

A person may have been destined to live till he’s 80, but to live his 80 years healthily is his choice. He could even destroy his lungs with cigarettes and be ill from the age of 40 till he dies. It is all up to them. What I’m trying to say is that, though we can’t change our destiny but the journey is yours to alter. Yes?

Question;
What would you do to change a person’s life?

xx,
Tee.

What do you think of the “fresh from the garden” concept? I’ve always loved the whole picking some veggies or herbs from your own garden thing. I mean, wouldn’t it be great?

We’ve been planting quite a number of herbs, spices and fruits for the last few months πŸ™‚ Here are some of what we mananged to grow beautifully by far 😍😍

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We have Mint, we keep these indoor.

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This is Stevia, you can use them as sugar replacement! -indoor as well.

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Here's chillies 😋😋

We also planted potatoes, shallots, onion, garlic, turmeric, watermelons, pomegranate, and more!! The house may turn into an orchard 😅

Anyway, I also decided to give healthy meals a go for today’s lunch.

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Salmon Spiral Pasta

Here’s the recipe;

Sliced Smoked Salmon
Carrot (sliced)
Broccoli
Vegetable Spiral Pasta
Salt and Pepper to taste
Dried Parsley
Dried Basil
Hot Chilli Powder
Olive butter
Onion
Garlic

I can’t provide the exact quantity of the igredients but yeah, I suppose you know what to do 😂 I also cheated my healthy meal with a side of Peanut Butter Grilled Chicken. 😋😋😋

P/s; I love Rosetta 😘

xx,
Tee.

Are you a dreamer? Or are you a dream crusher? 🙇

Have you ever met a person who is so negative that you can feel that dark aura when they’re near? It’s like their presence makes everything feels so cold, you can feel it in your bones.. 😈

It’s frustrating when people refuse to support you as a dreamer and that, they are more supportive of you when you are working your ass off to make someone elses’ dreams come true. Seems like most would rather work for someone powerful or be powerful and have others working for them rather than just be powerful enough to help others to change their lives and have others working WITH them. People can be funny sometimes. But of course, you are not allowed to express such thing to them (they’d get offended).

Here I am, still trying to figure out what’s best for me. I so much hate being in a place where negativity is such a good thing and positivity means you’re trying to kiss some asses – work. I’m not saying that I expect everything to be great, I’m just saying that, there’s nothing wrong about someone doing their work wholly, since.. That’s what the company is paying them for right? But yes, you are always better kissing asses. 😤😤😤

Oh well, I guess that’s about it for now. I need to get some gardening done. 😙

An attitude is like a flat tyre, you can’t go far until you change it.

xx,
Tee.